A Cross-Country Journey of Healing Through Connection

An experiment in moments

In today’s society, so many of us feel isolated.

We pass by one another on the sidewalk; stand behind one another in the grocery store; sit next to one another on the train– yet we feel separate. We feel detached. We feel lonely.

This disconnect is making us sick, literally—over 60 million Americans feel so isolated that their health is damaged in ways that mirror the effects of high blood pressure, smoking and obesity.

Our bodies crave connection,

so why is it that people are becoming increasingly more lonely?

Why is it that we are often praised for independence, instead of being acknowledged for reaching out and connecting.

Just as we need food and water for survival, humans need connection to maintain health and longevity. Our evolutionary past proves that our survival is dependent on our collectivity.

Today, we no longer live as our ancestors did, but our brains and bodies still remain wired to connect. We need one another to thrive, for our emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. A sense of belonging is deeply rooted within us, enabling us to feel truly alive and connected to our ourselves, our communities, and our world.

Being part of keeps us well.

We invite you to put down the phone, turn off the devices, and step back into humanity – alive, awake, and connected.

Welcome to the home of The Connection Cure, a cross-country human engagement project that explores face-to-face connection as a catalyst for healing and wellness.

Our nationwide workshops and connection conversations ignite the spirit, create conversation about our bodies, and aim to de-stigmatize loneliness in our increasingly disconnected society.

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The Connection Tour

From Wyoming, with love 1.25.19

In my workshops, I often talk about the power of sharing and receiving the story of a micro-moment – a brief genuine exchange, not just with a friend or loved one, but even with a stranger. Social Psychologist Barbara Fredrickson coined the term micro- … read more

From Colorado, with love 1.19.19

Hi friends! It’s been quite some time since I’ve written from the road, and for that, I owe you all an apology. This project has been so many things for me, and in the midst of all those things, it’s also been radically difficult. I find it hard to wri … read more

From Idaho, with love 10.24.18

The N train that takes you from Manhattan into Brooklyn is pure magic –– between Atlantic Avenue and Canal Street the train moves above ground. It’s this epic opening from darkness into blue sky, grey sky, or rainy sky. During this time you’re gifted t … read more

From Weeki Wachee, Florida, with love 10.11.18

The Connection Cure visits legendary Mermaid Vicki in Weeki Wachee, Florida read more

Dark Circles and Definitions 9.11.18

Yesterday morning when I woke up, the first thing I did was look in the mirror. Over the years, this is how I have measured my level of wellbeing; the color of the underbelly of my eyes directly correlates to how sick I feel on any given day. It’s my b … read more

From Las Vegas, with love 9.11.18

The Connection Cure visits the New Vista Ranch, a non-profit organization that supports and empowers youth and adults with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities read more

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  • New Mexico, you are more than spectacular. Thank you for your beauty. It’s the kind of beauty that moves your soul even when you’re not ready. The kind of beauty that shakes up your insides, feeling the vastness and preciousness of the earth, the planetarium skies, each inhalation filling the lungs with the smell of sage, chiles, desert rain, the soil of ghost ranch. Thank you for your depth. For illuminating so much that I need to continue to learn, history (the true kind) and culture. Thank you for your stories of loneliness, connection, open hearts, vulnerability. Thank you for strangers sharing losses and loves besides shrines and over freshly picked cherries. #connectioncure
  • I think there’s a lot of courage in being joyful. I spent so many years reveling in the opposite that at some point in my life, when I was so conditioned to being in pain and hiding out in my apartment, I think I lost my funny. Since I’ve been on the road full time (10 months and 26 days now), I’ve noticed how my goofy side had been swept under the rug for years, replaced by a deep fear of how I was being perceived and what people think and feel about me. It’s exhausting to live in fear of other people’s perceptions, because they’re just that, perceptions and illusions. I still have that voice in my head most days, but the vastness of the road has created more space for me to find my funny again. Some days I have to courageously choose joy and other days it shows up uninvited in chance encounters or magnificent landscapes. I’m slowly unlearning that to be in happy I have to earn it. .
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.#connectioncure #micromoments 📷: @donnavanotten
  • Some time ago I swallowed urgency whole. It planted a seed of haste inside of me that even on my slowest days created a current of anxiety. I believed it was what propelled me forward. It felt fast and productive and the abnormal became normal and during this flip book version of my life I stopped noticing. Ten full months on the road and this month is the first time I've paused and found myself in solitude. There aren't adventures and strangers and all the time gas pedals to get me somewhere new and surprising. There is just space and time to notice what I notice. 📸: the beauty @oakleyboycott #connectioncure
  • Crossing the street doesn’t usually feel like a serendipitous experience for me, but a few days ago as I was walking in Santa Monica this man and his pup walked right up to me and handed me a flower. Before he even said hello he proclaimed, “she who kisses joy as it flies has eternities of sunrises. I want you to know that everything in your life is right on schedule.” It was of course, exactly what I needed to hear, at exactly the most perfect time. 
Sometimes our reminders are so subtle it feels almost impossible to hear them. Sometimes it feels like we need to dig for them deep within the depths of our being. And other times, the reminders aren’t so subtle at all. In fact, they’re walking right beside us on Ashland Avenue and two days later maybe they’ll even end up sharing a glass of wine with you and if you’re lucky their nickname will be the Frogman. #connectioncure
  • It’s life’s simple pleasures, you know? Back to road life and exploration and mini horse bums and unknown adventures and daily surprises and micro moments and farm animals. Next stop - California, Arizona, and New Mexico. Who wants to pet horse bums with me? 🍑 📸 @home.sweet.idahome #connectioncure
  • There is no better expression than this one to describe my last three weeks in Miami. Absolute joy. Belly hurting laughter. Workshopping of workshops. Unbelievable support. Deepened friendships. Pirates and boaters and a diverse community of liveaboards who constantly have each other’s back - no matter what. There is a problem with the Connection Cure, and that is, I always want to return to the communities that move me. So instead of figuring out how to solve this problem, I’ve surrendered to it. I’ve decided to slow down, to return to the places that inspire me, to keep these relationships flourishing, and to embrace every freaking moment of it. Until next time Miami. I heart you. #connectioncure #connectioncureflorida•
📸: @passionlives
  • It’s often so easy to forget about the simplicities of life for me. The moments where I sit without distraction and just connect to me. The last three weeks living on a sailboat have forced me to return to a quieter place within myself, appreciating life without much technology distraction, and questioning why most times, I make things so hard and difficult. Being on this little boat reminds me that life and thoughts and connections and joy can be simple if I let it. I have no idea what’s next - where or how or when - but right now I’m cool with just being. It’s a new thing I’m trying on and I can breathe a lot better this way. Also, the sunrise helps too. #connectioncure #connectioncureflorida #nomad
  • @holaveromarquez and I met over ten years ago in a writer's workshop in a tiny NYC studio. We arrived as strangers, spending one evening a week around a small wooden table reading and writing stories from our lives. Led by a red haired, leopard legging-ed, red lipsticked writer, we, over the span of a few months, began to listen to the moments that mattered to us. Since that time, Vero and I have woven in and out of each others lives, connecting and reconnecting as the years went by. No matter how long it had been since we'd spoken, there was always an intimate knowing of one another, having been linked through the stories of our past. Last week Vero and her family opened their home to me in Miami and to my surprise, during our last dinner together, she pulled out a folder with some of my printed stories from 2009. Ten years later we sat around a wooden table re-reading these stories with quiet reflection on how we've changed. Sharing and receiving stories seems so obvious that sometimes I forget that there is always more to hear. This is what human brains are designed to do - connect, mirror, listen, feel - but how often do we (do I) forgot to ask someone to “tell me more.” Veronica was my quiet reminder to never stop being curious about the people in our lives and the power and connection that comes through sharing the moments that make us. #connectioncure #connectioncureflorida
  • One year ago today I was eating peanut butter and apple sandwiches with Mermaid Vicki, a stranger whom I drove 7 hours to meet at a roadside attraction in Weeki Wachee, Florida. After spending four hours with her, Mermaid Vicki invited me into her home for the night and I spent the next two days listening to her stories of the unity and mutual care in the mermaid community. I interviewed her for hours as her stories of magic and connection poured out of her. Since that time, I have traveled across the U.S, meeting powerful and fascinating women who have opened up and offered me a window into their worlds. I have heard stories of loss and pain, power and self connection, and the magic that happens when women champion one another without competition. In reflection, I can say with great certainty that listening to these stories has forever shifted me, and increased my desire to keep listening and sharing these stories as I continue on. Today, I honor mermaid Vicki who said, "Well, I’ll tell you one thing, there’s not another creature on earth like a woman. We create, we envision, we master, and we have a fierce resilience. Women are magic." #connectioncure #connectioncureflorida
  • because connection is everything ⚡️💜 — @lisadaron you are a gem in this world and the connection cure is an incredible project that is literally healing communities globally. grateful for my team who came out this morning and were truly seen. #connectioncure #joblove #thesweatlifemia
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huge thank you to @tanitainmia and @circa39miami for hosting us and really putting the cherry on top of this experience 🌴 // and the OG connection and thank you goes to @k_stern1214 for opening up the opportunity. love to you beauty 💕
  • This photo was taken today after an early morning workshop with the heartfelt staff of lululemon Miami Beach. They showed up and shared pieces of themselves and their stories that moved one another to tears. They talked about the ripple effect of connection and engagement, they shared incredibly vulnerable moments, offered stories and experiences, and shared in their joy and gratitude. 
It’s moments like this, with people like these, that always outweigh the tough and lonely times on the road. It’s experiences like these that remind me that the moments that make me feel connected and alive outweigh the moments that make me feel the opposite. Connection and engagement creates a ripple effect. That’s why we engage in conversation around it. Because when we talk about our potential to shift our bodies’ biochemistry, just through connection, maybe it will make us more apt to talk to strangers, to listen to someone’s story, to go deeper with someone already nearby. What I love about working with lululemon is the potential they have to engage in micro-moments with every single person who walks through their door. This team talked about their immediate impact, and the science was just an additional backdrop to expanding the definition of wellness and looking at how that term can be accessible to all. #connectioncure #connectioncureflorida
  • Six months on the road, never fully unpacking my suitcase once, staying in over thirty one different homes, hosting over twenty nine workshops, from mountains to lakes to oceans to deserts, going to dairy farms, fire stations, churches, haunted old hospitals, drive-ins, state fairs, potato museums, yurt parks, and national parks, with strangers and with friends, riding on scooters and flying in two seater airplanes, sharing coffee and pie, elk and huckleberries, yuca pancakes and wine, venison tacos and beer, in kitchens across the country, and ready for another six months!! Onward 🚗💨#connectioncure #nomad 📸@home.sweet.idahome

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